When a person is drowning they usually panic and grab everyone that is trying to save them. That is dangerous because they try to “climb” the person to get to the surface and thus can kill the supposed to be savior.
I was thought on a course that in these moments there are two things one can do to to force him/ her let go off you 1) is to dive deeper and the person will let you go, because he wants to the surface or 2) is to knock him out. I always wondered if it possible to knock a person out in the water.
Two days back all this came back to me when a hysterical Ada screamed in front of me. It was real hysteria and I was wondering in that moment if it isn´t better to slap her ( just for notice, I didn´t slap her) to calm her down, than looking how she is hysterically crying for an hour.. not able to calm her down.
I have always been and I am against hitting children, but in this moment I really remembered the story of drowning people and I started to wonder if is possible that there is some truth behind the way how to calm them down?
For something that felt like an eternity we were trying to clam Ada down by talking and hugging. In the end she was so exhausted that she fell asleep. I felt so sad for her. The whole thing with moving, kindergarten and a new brother that is taking her mother away was simply too much for her. How do You deal with a hysterical child?
Kad se osoba počne gušiti obično paničari i hvata se za svakog što hoće da mu pomogne. To je opasno jer se probava “popeti” na površinu preko osobe i tako može ugušiti „spasioca“.
Na jednom kursu sam učila da u ovakvim situacijama možeš dvije stvari uraditi da smiriš osobu (sebe spasiš) 1) zaroniti dublje i osoba će vas pustiti jer hoće prema površini ili 2) nokoutirati (k.o) ga. Pitam se doduše da li je moguće nokoutirati jednu osobu, koja paničari u vodi?
Prije dva dana je Ada imala histerični napad i sjetila sam se gore napisane situacije. Upitala sam se da li je moguće da u ovakvom slučaju bolje dijete po guzici udariti (nisam je udarila) nego pustiti da dva sata histeriše? Ada doslovno nije bila kontaktibilna (je li se tako kaže?) koliko je vrištala. Uvijek sam bila protiv toga da se djeca tuku, ali kad sam vidjela ovo onda nisam mogla a da se ne upitam da li bi bolje bilo za Adu da sam je malo po guzi lupila?
Adu smo grlili i ljubili, pazili i mazili i onda je nakon tog napada bila toliko umorna da je zaspala. Bilo mi je pravo žao jer sam vidjela koliko se patila. Doživljava sve odjednom- selidbu u novi grad, vrtić, brata koji će joj „uzeti“ mamu i sve to joj je jednostavno previše postalo. Kako se vi bočite dječijim histerijama?
I find it very difficult to buy shoes for a child. It should fit to all weathers, it should keep the feet dry and should be light to wear and and… A problem is also when asking Ada which boots she likes then she would love to have them all. Additional to that I want the “best-on-test” boots and suddenly buying boots turns into real rocket science.
It ended the old fashioned way. Me ordering a couple of boots, letting Ada choose the one she liked to wear the most. She chose pretty cool ones from Viking. They remind me of the ones I had when I was a child 🙂
Smatram da je kupovati cipele djeci. Treba pasati za sve vrste vremena, držati noge suhe, trebaju biti lagane za nositi itd. Ako pitam Adu koje joj se čizme najviše sviđaju ona kaže da hoće sve. Na to ja hoću da budu one najbolje iz testova i obična kupovina čizama se pretvara u čitavu nauku.
Završilo je s tim da sam nekoliko pari čizama kupila i pustila Adu jedne po jedne da probava i ipak sama odluči koje hoće. Izabrala je cool čizme od Viking-a. Podsjećaju me na one što sam ja mala kao dijete 🙂
If you want to understand the financial crisis of 2007 – 2008 take a look at this great movie “The big short” based on the 2010 book The Big Short: Inside the Doomsday Machine by Michael Lewis. Financial instruments and words like subprime loans, CDO´s , tranche are explained in a very simple and easy way and makes you wonder how people working in banking business where so blind to see what was coming. Not to say how blind we are to what is coming. The problem is that things haven´t changed a bit so I guess we will just have more such crisis but in shorter intervals, making me reflect about how to save for the future.Ako hoćeš da razumiješ financijsku krizu od 2007-2008 pogledaj super film “The big short” (Opklada vijeka), baziran na knjizi (2010) istog imena od Michaela Lewis. Financijski instrumenti i riječi popu subprime krediti, CDO´s, tranche su objašnjene na jednostavan i lagan način i dovede te da razmišljaš o tome kako je moguće da ljudi koji su radili sa tim stvarima nisu vidjeli na šta će to sve izaći. I mi smo doduše slijepi tome što dolazi. Problem je što se stvari ništa nisu promijenile tako da sam sigurna da će krize poput 2007 sve češće dolaziti, što mene dovede da razmišljam o tome kako ustvari štediti za budućnost
I celebrated my birthday on 14 .th of November. The same day my son celebrated his second week. Such a fantastic gift! Even if he has been with us just for two weeks it feels like he has been around for ever.
For Ada though it is a mega shock. It took her two weeks to accept him and still she is fighting with the fear that I, her mother, will forget her.
First, she didn’t want to take Adrian home, but she would have preferred us to leave the baby in the hospital.
At home when she understood that the baby will stay, she used every “opportunity” to try to “kiss” (throw something on) the baby. Then that phase was over and she turned into a big baby. Suddenly from time to time, she wants to wear diapers and have a pacifier.
For the whole week now Ada has been sick and at home with me and the baby so I hope this is just some kind of a temporary adaption phase.
Last three days she has started to kiss the baby (without throwing things at him) but she is still quite jealous and fears that she will lose me. I feel sorry for my little girl and hope her fear will pass fast, but in meantime that Ada adapts I´ll continue kissing and cuddling with her 🙂
14.g novembra sam slavila rodjedan. Isti dan je Adrian slavio svoju drugu sedmicu. Predivan poklon! Iako je tu samo dvije sedmice meni se čini da je bio tu vječno.
Za Adu, međutim, je on jedan megašok. Trebalo joj je maltene dvije sedmice da ga prihvati i još uvijek se boji da ću je ja, njezina mama, ostaviti ili zaboraviti.
Prvo, nije htjela Adriana ni kući da dovedemo, nego ga htjela ostaviti u bolnici.
Kad smo došli kući i kad je vidjela da je vrag odnio šalu, da Adrian stvarno ostaje sa nama, onda je iskorištavala svaku priliku da ga „poljubi“ (nešto slučajno baci na njega). Kad je prošla ta faza onda je htjela da je tretiramo kao bebu- da joj obučemo pelene i htjela je cuclu.
Čitavu sedmicu je Ada bila bolesna i bila je kod kuće sa nama tako da se nadam da je samo jedna prolazna navikavajuća faza.
Zadnja tri dana je počela zaprave ljubiti brata bez da baca stvari na njega, ali je i dalje dosta ljubomorna i boji se još uvijek da će me izgubiti.
Moram reći da mi je žao kad vidim kako se bezveze boji i nadam se da će je brzo proći. A u međuvremenu ću je ja ljubiti i maziti 🙂
Last time I had it, and now again I have it. The pain in my ligaments since I delivered the baby. It is quite amazing how many women have that problem and how seldom it is talked about. I just find some forum chats but nothing really serious. Like many other things we all expect that “a little pain” after the delivery is “normal.
The only thing said to prevent this pain is to take some painkillers. I mean if it persists for a couple of months (normally women are breastfeeding a couple of months) then eating painkillers every day doesn´t really sound as a solution.
I have to admit though, in the morning when one wakes up and the body is stiff it does sound inviting to take anything to relief the pain.
Someone told me that additional to the hormonal changes, this pain might come from lack of calcium also. Maybe it is placebo effect, but I tried to drink more yogurt and it felt a little better.
Have any any of you had this problem and could you solve it?
Prošli put sam imala ovaj problem, i sad ga opet imam. Otkad sam rodila imam bol u zglobovima. Prilično je nevjerovatno da toliko žena ima ovaj problem a da se tako malo o njemu zna ili da se malo priča o tome. Samo sam našla neke forume, ali ništa baš ozbiljno. Kao u dosta drugih stvari očekuje se kod mama da poslije poroda neke stvari “malo bole”.
Jedinu stvar koja se preporučuje je da se kljokamo tabletama protiv bolova. Ali ako će ovo ostati dok dojimo, to znači da bi u biti nekoliko mjeseci svaki dan morale piti tablete protiv bolova, a to ne zvuči baš kao neki dobar način rješavanje problema.
Moram priznati da ujutru, kad mi se svi zglobovi ukoče ipak to čini primamljivim.
Neka mi je rekla da može biti da je i od manjka kalciuma (dodatno hormonskim promjenama) . Možda je placeboefekat, ali sam probala piti više jogurta i malo mi je bilo lakše. A ako malo pomaže onda mi ne smeta ni što je placebo 🙂
Da li je neka od vas imala ovaj problem i ako jeste kako ste se “liječile”?
Today Adrian laughed at me for the first time. It is so cute, even if it still isn´t on purpose :). The mother instinct wakes up and one would want to have 10 children in that moment. It is interesting that blind children that have never seen a smiling person, also smile themselves.
Danas se Adrian prvi put meni nasmijao. To je tako slatko iako to jos nije namjerno. Odmah se majčinski instinkt probudi i volila bih imati 10. djece u tom momentu. Zanimljivo je da je smijeh instinkt i da se čak i slijepa djeca, koja nikad nisu vidjeli nekog kako se smije, smiju.
I was quite convinced that Trump will win. It would fit to the level of USA population.
The other thing I was convinced about was that the stock market will crash, like when Brexit happened. Unfortunately, I missed the opening of the stock market and thus missed the opportunity of buying stocks on sales. By the time I could check it the prices had recovered. Too bad.
Another big thing that happened yesterday and today was my sons (it sounds so weird) first laugh. He laughed yesterday when I held him and my heart was melting. And today he had his first bath and he enjoyed it so much.
I guess in the end it doesn´t matter who wins the US elections. The show goes on there. People always adapt…
However, experiencing the first laughter of a child, your child, that is something priceless.Bila sam prilično sigurna da će Trump pobijediti. To mi nekako paše nivou Američkog društva. Bila sam isto i sigurna da će berze puno pasti, kao za Brexit. Nažalost sam promašila otvor berze kad se moglo prilično jeftine dionice kupiti. Kad sam mogla pogledati berzu, berza se već sabrala. Šteta!!
Druge dvije velike stvari koje se desile jućer i danas su da mi se sin (kako čudno zvuči) po prvi put u životu na glas nasmijao i danas se prvi put kupao. Tako je uživaooo.
Na kraju se ipak pokaže da je nebitno ko dobije na izborima. Šou se nastavlja, a ljudi se uvijek prilagode.
Ali doživjeti prvi smijeh jednog djeteta, pogotovo svog, je neprocjenjiv!
I believe every mother worries whether her child gets enough food or not. When I started breastfeeding my daughter I was always worried and scared that my she did not get enough milk. When I found this (for me) fascinating picture I realized how small the stomach really was. Amazing…Vjerovatno je svaka mama barem jednom postavila pitanje ako joj beba dovoljno jede ili ne. Ja sam se uvijek bojala da mi kcerka ne jede dovoljno, dok nisam vidjela ovu sliku. Tek sam tad ustvari razumijela koliko je mal zeludac kod beba. Nevjerovatno…
84,5 kg. Završna težina! Oficijalno sam više vagala od mog muža…koji je nekih 30 cm viši od mene. Trebalo bi me praviti malo tužnom, ali sam se tome samo smijala.Vjerovatno jer sam znala da je to prolazno.
31.g oktobra navečer, je sve počelo. Ona bol. Oko 20h je počelo zaprave. Intenzitet se povećao i počelo je biti regularno.
Oko 23h su bolovi dolazili svakih 7-10min, oko 23.30h odjednom svake 3-4 min, što mi je bio malo kao hitan slučaj jer smo bili kod kuće. Rekla sam mužu da me vozi u bolnicu.
Na putu do bolnice sam, između bolova, razmišljala o prošlom porodu. Bio je katastrofa. Mislila sam da ću umrijeti tada. Trebalo mi je par mjeseci da sebi dođem.
Odlučila sam se uzeti PDA. Što bih se patila ako ne moram, a nisam volila osjećaj da ležim u krevetu i da nisam mogla na noge stati. Sa PDA mi je doktorica rekla da se mogu kretati, što olakšava porod.
Prvo što nas je dočekalo na porodilištu je bio jedan grozan krik od žene u bolovima. Nije baš to što sam htjela čuti!!
Babica je bila ležerna. Stavila je CTG kontrolu da mjeri srce djeteta i kontrakcije. Ležala sam nekih 10-15 min dok su kontrakcije postajale sve jače.
Prošli porod sam imala epidural tako da nisam nikad ovakve bolove doživjela.
Babica me pregledala i upitala me ležerno ako mogu izabrati između 0 i 10 koji bi broj uzela. Rekla sam joj 10 , jer sa 10 cm si toliko otvorena da odmah ideš na porod. (Ali sam isto tako htjela PDA , a to ne dobivas tako kasno).
Ona se nasmija i reče, blizu si, otvorena si 9 cm!
Mene je panika uvhatila. 9cm?? Zadnji put sam se patila 24h da se otvorim neka 4-5 cm a sada? Neću stići ni PDA dobiti.
Babica je bila skroz ležerna. Odvela me u porodiljisku salu. Nisam se stigla ni presvući.
Objasnila mi je da ću to sve uspijeti bez problema. Rekla mi je – „ovo je normalan porod. I ona ima 3 djece. Kad je mogla ona mogu i ja.“ Motivisala me je i bila je fantastična!
I tad je bol iz pakla nastala! Bio je to kao refleks povraćanja. Kad krene ne možeš ga zaustaviti. Samo što sam dodatno imala osjećaj da mi je kameni blok od 5 kg u stomaku koji pritišće da izađe. Počela sam se gubiti, kao da ću pasti u nesvijest. Srećom je moj muž tu bio i govorio da dišem. Fokusirala sam se na njegov glas i disala da stvarno ne padnem u nesvijest.
Koliko se sjećam babica je probila vodenjak. Osjetila sam kao topao vodopad niz noge. Sjećam se da sam sama u sebi pomislila kila manje!
Onda je naletio drugi refleks koji je rastrgao moje tijelo. Osjećala sam bebinu glavu kako se gura prema izlazu. I peklo je. Kako je samo bolilo! Ne znam jesam li vrištala ili ne. Mislim da nisam vrištala nego sam više ko peš otvarala usta za vazduhom.
Osjetila sam kako se bebina glava „zaglavila“ na pola puta dok se tijelo pripremalo na treći refleks. Nisam htjela da se opustim, nisam ni mogla. Osjetila sam da mi treba samo još ova kontrakcija da dijete „izbacim“ iz sebe. Da sva ova patnja i bol prođe.
Kad je kontrakcija krenula ja sam opet pritiskila koliko sam osjetila da treba. (Prošli porod nisam ništa osjetila zbog epidurala a ovaj put, bez ikakve anestezije, sam mogla osjetit tačno koliko da pritišćem).
Babica je uzela dijete i odmah ga meni na bluzu/prsa stavila. Beba je mene gledala a ja njega.
U međuvremenu su placentu izvadili. Nije bilo nikakvih problema, kao što je bilo prvi put. Niti sam krvarila niti je bolilo.
Znači u 1.00h otprilike sam bila u bolnici. U 1.54h, 1.g novembra se rodila beba.
Zanimljivo kako je prvi porod bio horor kojeg nikom ne želim, a drugi porod je bio takav da svakoj ženi poželim. Dva poroda, dva totalno razna iskustva. Evo „kamena“ kojeg sam izbacila iz tijela.
Dobro nam došao! Sunce naše malo!
84.5 kg! Final weight! Officially I weighted more than my husband…that is some 30 cm taller than me. Should make me depressed but I found it rather funny. Probably, because I knew it was just temporary.
On 31.st of October, in the evening, it started. The pain. It started around 20h increasing in intensity and regularity. Around 23h it became very regular like every 7-10 min and 23.30h I had pain every 3-4 min, which was kind of emergency because I wasn´t in the hospital. I told my husband to drive me to the hospital.
On the way to the hospital I was thinking of my first delivery! It was such a disaster! I thought I will die and it took me months to recover.
I decided in my mind to take the PDA. I hated the feeling of being in pain but also not being able to stand on my feet. With PDA the Dr. said one can walk and I know that is better when delivering a baby.
At our arrival at the hospital the first we heard entering the maternity ward was a horrible scream of a woman in pain. It was not what I wanted to hear!!!
The midwife took it easy, put the CTG for measuring the heart and for some 10-15 min I lied on the bed in pain. The contractions got worse and worse.
Last time I had epidural so I never felt this pain.
The midwife did the check up and asked me cool if I could choose between 0 and 10 what nr would I like to have. By 10 cm you are completely open and the baby has to come. I said 10, because I wanted to get over with it. But still I wanted to get the PDA. I didn´t want this pain.
The midwife got happy- well, you have a 9!!!
I panicked, wtf? 9?? Last time I was suffering for 24h to open up some 4-5 cm, this time I didn´t even have time to take the pain killers.
The midwife was very cool, took me to the birthing room and showed me where to give birth. She explained to me I will manage that, she had 3 kids. She motivated me. I have to say she was great!
I realized I didn´t even have time to change my clothes.
Than the pain from hell came. It was a reflex like the one that we have while puking. You cannot stop pressing it is just coming. Only it felt like I have a 5kg (turned out to be 4kg) stone pressing through my body, wanting to get out. I was almost fainting, feeling my blood pressure drop. Luckily my husband told me to breath. I was focusing on his voice not to faint.
As far as I recall the midwife broke the amniotic sac. I felt like a warm waterfall down my legs. I remember thinking 1kg less.
Then the second reflex came, tearing my body apart. I felt the burning feeling of the babys head pressing out. I didn´t really scream but it was more like gasping for air. I felt like a fish on land.Oh, did it hurt!
I could feel the head stuck while the body prepared the third pushing. I didn´t want to relax, couldn’t relax. The head was in between my legs and I felt I need just this one push and it will get out. So when the reflex came I again pushed.
(Actually, I pushed much less than I pushed when delivering first time. This time having no pain killer I could feel much better when it was enough. )
The midwife took the baby and put it immediately on my blouse. The baby looked at me and I looked at him.
In meanwhile they took out the placenta. There where no problems at all. No bleeding, no nothing!
At 1h I was in hospital, at 1.54h, 1st of November,, the baby was born.
I had two deliveries and two experiences. The first one was a horror experience, the second delivery I wish every woman to have. *
In any case here is the stone I delivered.
Welcome sunshine boy!
Looking at the diagram I for sure must get more even weighting of my portfolio regarding the exposure to different markets. For now, I find the food market interesting and it is s one of the markets I believe will increase with time. Even if people until now have payed lesser and lesser part of their total salary for food I do believe that food will get more expensive, (hopefully because of better quality and higher interest for better food quality among common people).
Maybe even the climate change will make an impact and we won´t get as “cheap” food as we have today. I hope not, but it is a realistic scenario. In any case I bought a couple of Axfood stocks hoping for additional dividends.
Another stock I have bought this month is the Sagax D. I decided to join the new emission of the stocks offered to the owners and received 24 Sagax D meaning additional 48 kr dividends per year.
l also joined the offer Avanza gave where one could ask for minimum 400 stocks but do not know whether I will get some or not.
I honestly have no idea if that is a good buy but for now I hope that if I get these stocks I will get 2 kr dividends / per stock additional per year.
That is a step towards my goal of having 10 000 kr dividends per year..
Slowly but surely 😀
Kad sam vidjela diagram mog (našeg) portfolija primjetila sam da trebam malo bolje izvagati dionice prema raznim tržištima!
Jedno od tržišta u koje vjerujem je tržište hrane i mislim da će se povećati vremenom. Iako sada dosta mali dio plate plaćamo za hranu (na zapadu) vjerujem da će se cijene i kvalitet povećati jer ljudi postaju osjetljiviji i hoće bolji kvalitet hrane a i spremni su platiti za to. Na to još dođe da možda promijene klime dovedu do manjka hrane i možda i zbog toga poskupi. Ne znam, vidjećemo. Uglavnom kupila sam nekolike Axfood dionice.
Druge dionice koje sam kupila su Sagax D. Prihvatila sam ponudu koju su dobili vlasnisi Sagax dionica i kupila sam (dodijeljena sam) 24 Sagax D dionice. To znači do 48kr dodatno dividende godišnje.
Prijavila sam se i na program od Avanze gdje se potpisuje za minimalno 400 dionica. To ne znači da ću ih moći kupiti nego može biti da ih isto tako samo 50 dionica dobijem dodijeljeni.
Iskreno, nemam pojma je li ovo dobra kupovina ali se nadam da ću sa tim dodati još 2kr/ dionici dividende godišnje. To je jedan korak prema mom slijedećem cilju da primim 10 000 kr dividende godišnje. Polako ali sigurno 😀
Ako hoćeš da razumiješ financijsku krizu od 2007-2008 pogledaj super film “The big short” (Opklada vijeka), baziran na knjizi (2010) istog imena od Michaela Lewis. Financijski instrumenti i riječi popu subprime krediti, CDO´s, tranche su objašnjene na jednostavan i lagan način i dovede te da razmišljaš o tome kako je moguće da ljudi koji su radili sa tim stvarima nisu vidjeli na šta će to sve izaći. I mi smo doduše slijepi tome što dolazi. Problem je što se stvari ništa nisu promijenile tako da sam sigurna da će krize poput 2007 sve češće dolaziti, što mene dovede da razmišljam o tome kako ustvari štediti za budućnost
Bila sam prilično sigurna da će Trump pobijediti. To mi nekako paše nivou Američkog društva. Bila sam isto i sigurna da će berze puno pasti, kao za Brexit. Nažalost sam promašila otvor berze kad se moglo prilično jeftine dionice kupiti. Kad sam mogla pogledati berzu, berza se već sabrala. Šteta!!
