parenting/ roditeljstvo

First time visit / Prva posjeta

~ au

Last weekend we had great visit. Uncle Senad, auntie Samra and her sister Jasmina came to visit Adrian (and Ada) for the first time since he was born. Ada was excited and was talking about it the whole day.
We also decided to celebrate her 3 year birthday also because we were all sick last weekend and she was soo disappointed that she didn’t´t get any ballons. This time she got it all and she was so happy.
Especially in moments like these I really miss Sweden and being close to family..

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Prošlog vikenda smo imali dragu posjetu. Dajdža Senad, ujna Samra i njezina sestra Jasmina su došli u posjetu da vide Adriana (a i Adu). Ada je bila ushićena i čitav dan je samo o dajdži pričala.
Odlučili smo usput i da proslavimo njezin 3.i rođendan jer smo prošlog vikenda svi bili bolesni. Bila je tako razočarana tada što nije dobila “ni pokjone ni bajone”. Ovaj put je svega bilo tu i bila je tako sretna 🙂
Pogotovo u momentima poput ovih mi jako nedostaje Švedska i bliskost familije….

 

Childrens fight / Dječija tuča

~ au

Usually grown ups have this beautiful picture of kindergarten. Children are playing nicely together and everything is great and peaceful. Well on Friday the first thing I heard of Ada was that she had “boom” a girl- and then she was showing her fist. First I didn´t understand what she meant by it and then I realized she had hit a girl. I tried to find out what had happened but couldn´t get a clear picture of who had hit whom first. As far as I understood Ada had taken the girls biscuit and the other girl hit Ada. Ada then hit her back. No matter what I was quite shocked about it. What happened to the fun peaceful kindergarden I remember?Obično odrasli imaju lijepu sliku vrtića. Djeca se lijepo igraju, sve je bajno i mirno. I onda prva stvar što me dočeka kad dođem u vrtić je Ada koja mi priča kako je “bum” curicu i pokazuje šakom. Prvo nisam skontala šta hoće reći, da bi skontala da je udarlia curicu šakom. Probala sam izvući iz nje šta se desilo ali nije pričala nešto. Neka je frka bila kad su sjedile Ada i ta curica jedna pokraj druge i jedna je uzela keks od druge. Kako sam skontala Ada je uzela keks od druge curice, da bi ova pošizila i lupila Adu, a Ada ni pet ni šest curi vrati . Nebitno, bila sam šokirana i pitam se šta se desilo onim zanimljivim, mirnim vrtićem kojeg se ja sjećam?

 

Winterboots / Zimske čizme

~ au

I find it very difficult to buy shoes for a child. It should fit to all weathers, it should keep the feet dry and should be light to wear and and… A problem is also when asking Ada which boots she likes then she would love to have them all. Additional to that I want the “best-on-test” boots and suddenly buying boots turns into real rocket science.
It ended the old fashioned way. Me ordering a couple of boots, letting Ada choose the one she liked to wear the most. She chose pretty cool ones from Viking. They remind me of the ones I had when I was a child 🙂
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Smatram da je kupovati cipele djeci. Treba pasati za sve vrste vremena, držati noge suhe, trebaju biti lagane za nositi itd. Ako pitam Adu koje  joj se čizme najviše sviđaju ona kaže da hoće sve. Na to ja hoću da budu one najbolje iz testova i obična kupovina čizama se pretvara u čitavu nauku.
Završilo je s tim da sam nekoliko pari čizama kupila i pustila Adu jedne po jedne da probava i ipak sama odluči koje hoće. Izabrala je cool čizme od Viking-a. Podsjećaju me na one što sam ja mala kao dijete 🙂

Jealousy / Ljubomora

~ au ~ 2 Comments

I celebrated my birthday on 14 .th of November. The same day my son celebrated his second week. Such a fantastic gift! Even if he has been with us just for two weeks it feels like he has been around for ever.
For Ada though it is a mega shock. It took her two weeks to accept him and still she is fighting with the fear that I, her mother, will forget her.
First, she didn’t want to take Adrian home, but she would have preferred us to leave the baby in the hospital.
At home when she understood that the baby will stay, she used every “opportunity” to try to “kiss” (throw something on) the baby. Then that phase was over and she turned into a big baby. Suddenly from time to time, she wants to wear diapers and have a pacifier.
For the whole week now Ada has been sick and at home with me and the baby so I hope this is just some kind of a temporary adaption phase.
Last three days she has started to kiss the baby (without throwing things at him) but she is still quite jealous and fears that she will lose me. I feel sorry for my little girl and hope her fear will pass fast, but in meantime that Ada adapts I´ll continue kissing and cuddling with her 🙂
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14.g novembra sam slavila rodjedan. Isti dan je Adrian slavio svoju drugu sedmicu. Predivan poklon! Iako je tu samo dvije sedmice meni se čini da je bio tu vječno.
Za Adu, međutim, je on jedan megašok. Trebalo joj je maltene dvije sedmice da ga prihvati i još uvijek se boji da ću je ja, njezina mama, ostaviti ili zaboraviti.
Prvo, nije htjela Adriana ni kući da dovedemo, nego ga htjela ostaviti u bolnici.
Kad smo došli kući i kad je vidjela da je vrag odnio šalu, da Adrian stvarno ostaje sa nama, onda je iskorištavala svaku priliku da ga „poljubi“ (nešto slučajno baci na njega). Kad je prošla ta faza onda je htjela da je tretiramo kao bebu- da joj obučemo pelene i htjela je cuclu.
Čitavu sedmicu je Ada bila bolesna i bila je kod kuće sa nama tako da se nadam da je samo jedna prolazna navikavajuća faza.
Zadnja tri dana je počela zaprave ljubiti brata bez da baca stvari na njega, ali je i dalje dosta ljubomorna i boji se još uvijek da će me izgubiti.
Moram reći da mi je žao kad vidim kako se bezveze boji i nadam se da će je brzo proći. A u međuvremenu ću je ja ljubiti i maziti 🙂

Lactation Rheuma / Reumatski bolovi kod dojenja

~ au

Last time I had it, and now again I have it. The pain in my ligaments since I delivered the baby. It is quite amazing how many women have that problem and how seldom it is talked about. I just find some forum chats but nothing really serious. Like many other things we all expect that “a little pain” after the delivery is “normal.
The only thing said to prevent this pain is to take some painkillers. I mean if it persists for a couple of months (normally women are breastfeeding a couple of months) then eating painkillers every day doesn´t really sound as a solution.
I have to admit though, in the morning when one wakes up and the body is stiff it does sound inviting to take anything to relief the pain.
Someone told me that additional to the hormonal changes, this pain might come from lack of calcium also. Maybe it is placebo effect, but I tried to drink more yogurt and it felt a little better.
Have any any of you had this problem and could you solve it?motivation-quote
Prošli put sam imala ovaj problem, i sad ga opet imam. Otkad sam rodila imam bol u zglobovima. Prilično je nevjerovatno da toliko žena ima ovaj problem a da se tako malo o njemu zna ili da se malo priča o tome. Samo sam našla neke forume, ali ništa baš ozbiljno. Kao u dosta drugih stvari očekuje se kod mama da poslije poroda neke stvari “malo bole”.
Jedinu stvar koja se preporučuje je da se kljokamo tabletama protiv bolova. Ali ako će ovo ostati dok dojimo, to znači da bi u biti nekoliko mjeseci svaki dan morale piti tablete protiv bolova, a to ne zvuči baš kao neki dobar način rješavanje problema.
Moram priznati da ujutru, kad mi se svi zglobovi ukoče ipak to čini primamljivim.
Neka mi je rekla da može biti da je i od manjka kalciuma (dodatno hormonskim promjenama) . Možda je placeboefekat, ali sam probala piti više jogurta i malo mi je bilo lakše. A ako malo pomaže onda mi ne smeta ni što je placebo 🙂
Da li je neka od vas imala ovaj problem i ako jeste kako ste se “liječile”?

Fascinating- size of a newborn´s stomach/ Fascinantno- Zeludac male bebe

~ au

I believe every mother worries whether her child gets enough food or not. When I started breastfeeding  my daughter I was always worried and scared that my she did not get enough milk. When I found this (for me) fascinating picture I realized how small the stomach really was. Amazing…size-of-a-newborns-stomach-v2-5x7-printVjerovatno je svaka mama barem jednom postavila pitanje ako joj beba dovoljno jede ili ne. Ja sam se uvijek bojala da mi kcerka ne jede dovoljno, dok nisam vidjela ovu sliku. Tek sam tad ustvari razumijela koliko je mal zeludac kod beba. Nevjerovatno…

To my daughter / Mojoj kcerki

~ au

This morning Ada woke up at 5.30h. That is fine, she fell asleep around 19h which is way to early for her. She was playing nicely until 8h but then she realized she has to go to kindergarten and then the hell broke loose. She was crying and crying and wanted to be with me. It was quite intresting to watch her try to get her will through.
Funny thing is once she is in kindergarten she really enjoys it. Reminds me of me when I have to do sports. I hate to go TO the sports club, but once I am there I really do enjoy it :/
In situations like this one would just love to get back to bed and wake up another day when you have a sunshine instead of a screaming monster…221071-to-my-daughter-who-likes-to-argue-with-mePrevod: Mojoj kcerci koja voli da raspravlja sa mnom. Sta mislis odakle imas svoj stav. Odustani od toga. Imam decenije vise iskustva nego ti 😀

Jutros se Ada probudila oko 5.30h. Ok je, jer je zaspala oko 19h sto je prepre prerano za nju. Lijepo se igrala do 8h dok nije skontala da mora u vrtic i tad je krenulo sve u vraga. Plakala je koliko je mogla i govorila kako hoce da bude sa mnom. Bilo mi je onako prilicno zanimljivo gledati kako pokusava da svoju volju provede.
Zanimljivo je isto, sto joj bude lijepo kad dodje u vrtic. Podsjeca me malo na mene i kad trebam ici na trening. Mrzim ICI do treninga, ali kad sam na mjestu onda mi bude fino.
U ovim situacijama bih se najradije samo vratila u krevet, odspavala i probudila neki drugi dan kad je Ada malo sunce a ne vristajuci monstrum…

So proud / Tako ponosna

~ au

I spent half the day in a kindergarten full of wild kids. I really gain respect for people working with children. I am pretty sure that must be the hardest job om earth.
Ada loved the kindergarten today. She was so proud she told me she hadn’t  even cried. I couldn’t resist but to buy her something. Thinking about it I wonder if that is good parenting? Should one buy things in moments like this or is it making children expect a gift every time they are nice? When I see Ada get so proud and so happy I would buy Ada everything I can 😀2016-09-02 12.59.322016-09-02 12.59.03Pola dana smo provele u vrticu sa divljom (sretnom) djecom. Kad to vidim onda stvarno imam respekta prema toj profesij. Mislim da je to najteza profesija koja postoji.
Ada je bila tako ponosna sto danas nije plakala u vrticu da nisam mogla odoliti da joj nesto kupim. Kad malo razmislim o tom potezu onda se zapitam ako je to biti dobar roditelj? Da li je to toliko pametno kupovati stvari u ovim situacijama ili djeca postanu razmazena i ocekuju nesto svaki put kad su dobra? Jer kad je Ada ovako fina i ponosna ja bih joj sve kupila 😀

A cow is a cow / Krava je krava

~ au

…but you check her teeth up before you buy her. I couldn’t sleep this night and in the middle of the night I suddenly remember my late grandfather saying these words ” a cow is a cow but check her teeth up before buying her”. Great quote actually considering that it has described the essence of sexual selection. First time I heard it I cried of laughter, especially since my grandfather was drop dead serious about it. He wanted me to be careful which boy to choose when the “time was right for marriage, and not even to talk about the time for children”. I must say I considered him almost crazy when I heard it. However thinking about it though, years to come proved him right ( even though, I admit, it does sound sooo harsch and kind of extreme). In the end it all comes to health. My wealth, childrens health, your partners health, your families health, your husbands families health and so on. You just need one ill person in the (extended) family and the whole family is involved and experiencing constant stress that in worst case tears families apart. So I guess, to make your own  future life easier it is not a bad thing to practice when looking for a partner… no matter how weird and calculating it sounds. 2016-07-31 01.39.08…pa se gledaju zubi kad se kupuje. Ne mogu da spavam i iz vedra neba se sjetih mog “babe” (dido, ali su ga svi zvali babo) rahmetli kad mi je rekao  to mrtav ozbiljan. “Krava je krava pa se gledaju zubi kad se kupuje”. Htio je da pripazim koga budem izabirala kad bude vrijeme za ozbiljnu vezu (udaju) a da ne pricam o mojoj buducoj djeci. Kad sam ovu izreku prvi put cula plakala sam od smijeha koliko je to meni bilo smijesno i apsurdno. Priznajem, smatrala sam “babu” malo cak i otkacenim da tako nesto kaze. Ali cinjenica je da je ta izreka ustvari opisala srz seksualne selekcije. Prodjose godine, ” babe” vec dugo nema, ali se ispostavilo da je bio u pravu. Jer se na kraju sve svede na zdravlje. Moje zdravlje, zdravlje djece, partnera/ muza/zene. Zdravlje njegove/ njezine familije itd. Dovoljna je jedna bolest u (siroj) familiji, da svi budu pod stresom. Tenzije koje nastaju su dovoljne da razore i najjacu familiju. Tako da, koliko to god zvucilo cudno, okrutno i izracunato, stvarno na kraju ispadne da je babo bio u pravu. Ako hoces da olaksas svoj buduci zivot (naravno ne mozes nikad biti 100% siguran) onda treba dobro gledati koga ces izabrati kao buduceg zivotnog partnera.

 

Balthazar science park for children / Balthazar park nauke za djecu

~ au

If you are close to the city Skövde I would recommend a visit to Balthazar, a science park for children. It is one of the best I have been to. The concept is fantastic. The main part is science made such to interest children of all ages. There is also a place for taking a “fika” ( coffee,  cakes and some simple dishes are served) . I find it interesting for grown ups also. Here are some pics from the times we have been there.

Ako ste u blizini Skövdea ja bih vam preporucila da odete u Balthazar. To je jedan park nauke za djecu. Jedan od boljih u kojem sam bila. Koncept im je fantastican. Glavni dio je tako uradjen da motivise i aktivira djecu i da im ucini nauku zanimljivom. Ima isto mjesto za kafenisanje. Prodaju tu i par laganih jela. Dobro je sto je ovaj park i interesantan i za odrasle. Evo par slika od ovih par puteva sto smo bili tamo. 20160708_144421